2 of my close gal pals have informed me that they are on the road to divorce...and only somewhat recently a good friend of mine went the same way with his marriage...and added to these are a couple more old friends who have gotten divorced in the past few years...
cripes...
call me traditional if you will, but to yours truly, the marriage vows are sacred...i truly believe that it's for good and bad times...where a couple should work towards resolving issues/problems to the fullest extent before anything else is contemplated...just that in this day, it's too easy to cut our losses...and it's exacerbated by the fact that lotsa couples are delaying the setting up of their families...children might be a cementing factor in keeping the marriage going...
yes i know, it's easy to say when i am outside of the problems/issues and when i do not know the whole story, but then again, it's MY say anyway...
oh well...in any case, i will always be there for them since i am a friend...that doesn't mean i have to like the situation though...
wish it weren't this way...
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i agree. both with us not being in the situation to 'appreciate' the difficulties faced and the 'de-sanctification' of the vows.
it's my personal view that couples are overly obsessed with "i have the right to be happy". I also find that maybe part of the reason is the 'availability' of the OTHER option, all the talk about having more liberal views of divorce, why stay together if u are not happy (which isn't the point of marriage really and if it was...then maybe they should have gotten the facts right in the first place).
It's just like abortion. It's so easy to slam accusations of people being old-fashioned or believing in taboos etc. AND my biggest grib - sex education. Pre-marital sex is no longer "wrong" - just make sure you have protection.
Policies seem to be more concerned about fire-fighting (how to lower AIDS incidences) than prevention of fire (how to enhance marriages).
Sorry, i get carried away with this....always...and like i say, just my views.
*shrug*
societal/secular attitudes are prevailing over good old-fashioned values/morals...how sad...
but how can one hold back the tide?
*sigh*
while i'm at it....this thing about 'westernization' is abit of an overkill.
i think there is a tendency to overplay just so they have an excuse for their behaviour really. They take one extreme example and state as a western norm. Anything falling short of accepting and confirming is termed as not 'in' or old-fashioned thinking.
I'm always worried about children growing up - and how to impart the 'right' values without making them feel like some societal outcast.
Sometimes i really think it's who u hang around with...
familiar values takes priority, lez...the home ground is one of the crucial stages especially when the kids are growing up...impart the correct values then, and personally i think half the battle is won...
make it part and parcel of every day life until it's like natural and nothing is forced...
well if ppl wanna act this way or that way, they will invariably find a reason (sub excuse) to do so...no getting around that fact...
dun worry about others, tend to the home ground ;)
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